Mar 1, 2016
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“You’ve done some wonderful work on avoiding or transfiguring critique… if you’re the one giving it. However, what if you’re on the receiving end, and your partner is constantly looking for faults? How would you turn that around? My first instinct was to break up with her, that her mind has been poisoned with the opinions of others.
Key members of her family/friends thought I was a bit too weird and awkward, socially inept, even inappropriate. Growing up in small towns, smaller schools, and being a techie… judgmental city folk like that really don’t get me. Initially we agreed that I see a therapist and read some social skills books, since I’m compliant, an advocate of self-improvement.
Eventually, it started bothering me. About a year of that was enough, and I started standing up for myself, just straight up saying no sometimes, refusing the critique outright even. She went distant after that, and two months later, she broke things off.”
(These are Show Notes: Be sure to listen to the episode to hear stories, examples, and more tips.)
1. Trust Yourself
2. Ask Curious Questions
3. Set Limits And Boundaries
4. Redirect And Ask For Constructive Communication
5. Practice Self-Validation
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