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Oct 11, 2022

​​You become what you consistently tell yourself, whether it is positive or negative, according to the adage "You are who you say you are." This tells us that the thoughts that you feed your mind matter because, unwittingly, they serve as the road map for both your interpersonal relationships and your individual self.

You can't really rewrite the past, but having the awareness of how it can impact your life, you give yourself the power to write a new story, a new beginning. 

In this episode, Dr. Skerrett explains the concept of couples' resilience and the advantages it has for relationships and elaborates on how couples can develop and nurture their resilience.

Karen Skerrett, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and registered nurse with over 40 years of experience as a clinician, academic, and author who specializes in strength-based approaches to healing and change across the lifecycle. She is the author of Growing Married, co-author of Positive Couple Therapy, co-editor of Couple Resilience, and author of the memoir Tell Me Again How I Know You?

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

6:06 Karen’s transition from nursing to psychology: Targeting towards and focusing on couple's resilience.

11:14 What is couples’ resilience and what makes it a source of positive energy for couple life?

13:24 The importance of the stories we tell our narrative.

18:59 The distinction between a story and a "we-story".

25:31 The seven elements of we-ness.

34:50 Transforming individualistic cultures and behavior into an empowering story.

41:39 Karen's advice and resources to help people build a couple's resiliency.


Growing Married: Creating Stories for a Lifetime of Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Couple Resilience: Emerging Perspectives (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Positive Couple Therapy: Using We-Stories to Enhance Resilience (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Strengths-based Resilience (SBR)

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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