May 16, 2023
Building a strong and secure connection within a romantic relationship is a goal shared by many. We strive for harmony, understanding, and a deep bond that withstands the test of time. But with human nature being what it is - aggressive, warlike, moody, and easily influenced - it can be a challenging task.
So, how do we achieve this level of connection? Is it about finding the perfect partner or following a set of rules?
In this episode, Dr. Stan Tatkin and Dr. Jessica Higgins embark on an enlightening exploration of human behavior within relationships shedding light on key elements that foster a strong and secure connection. Join us as we delve into the strategies and insights that can help you and your partner work together to create a solid foundation of love, trust, and mutual support.
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the upcoming, In Each Other’s Care.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.
In this episode
6:01 In Each Other’s Care: Practical Guidance on Applying the Principles of Secure Functioning
10:56 Normalizing stressful situations and creating purpose-centered relationships.
15:36 Preserving relationships through proactive engagement.
26:05 Creating purposeful relationships: moving beyond psycho-biology to action.
30:37 Embracing a collaborative stance: Exploring partner’s needs and approaching conversations with mutual interest.
Mentioned
Type Of Relationship Support (survey)
In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Learn How to Interact When Conflicts Arise (excerpt)
We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Relationship Rx (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 291: How “Love Is Not Enough” – An Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication
Connect with Dr. Stan Tatkin
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Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com
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