Jun 3, 2019
In episode ERP 171, I read a listener’s question and I shared some examples of different types of manipulative behavior. I also offered the first 2 tips on how to deal with manipulative behavior in relationship. If you missed it, I encourage you to check it out.
To recap, the first two tips of How To Deal With Manipulative Behavior:
1. Identify The Manipulative Behavior
2. Focus On Your Power, Strength, And Goodness
(Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)
3. Work on Differentiating:
“The ability to balance our needs for autonomy and attachment is called differentiation. Differentiation is a scientific process that occurs in all species. For humans, it is about becoming more of a unique individual and a solid person through relationships with others.” by Dr. David Schnarch
“I can’t tell you how many clients have said, when they’re in their 20s or 30s: ‘You know, when I looked at my dad, I realized I’m a foot taller than him.’ And it was a revelation because they still felt so much littler. So being able to reverse that and recognize, ‘Oh, I’m starting to feel small now, but wait a minute — I’m not,’ can be helpful.” Because, he says, “that’s the point of it. That’s how people manipulate. They make you feel small because that gives them more power.” by Dr. Dan Neuharth
4. Set Limits and Boundaries:
5. Deal with Grief and Loss:
6. Hold a Mirror:
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